Tuesday, November 29, 2005

Touching Feet...




Now this is something I struggle with..

Touching the feet of elders... Who of you fellow gorigirls do it?
how does it make you feel ?

I feel an overwhelming anxiety come over me around 4 minutes before hand when I know the feet are coming towards me...

My heart thumps my breathing heavy and my senses go..The voices become muffled. The lump in my throat chokes me from with in..
and then..I have to time the swoop for the right moment, as not to trip, fall or embarrass myself.
I have to take one hand to my Chunni to stop if from falling as I bend my head down to below my arse, remembering to keep my arse tucked in to avoid catapulting the person standing behind me into a bum push to the ground.

then..I swoop down. Touch the feet as quickly as possible and proceed to come up for air. Glance around the room to see if anyone is laughing at me or if I have done something wrong. Did it.. Sigh of relief comes over me as I begin again for the next relative.


Hubby usually warns me..
And as I said timing is everything.. Your walking out the door.. Your saying goodbye 10 times, when is the right time?
Now.. No he has turned..
Now... No now she is looking at me funny..
NOW.. Oh god they moved away the moment has passed.
My Husband glares at me.
They are all looking at me to touch the feet..
The palpatations become to great I retract, I retreat.
Oh shit now I am in trouble I didn't touch aunty's feet when I was clearly told to.

I know they are discussing my behaviour.. I know I am in trouble.

But its not easy.. its frightening and scary...


Want to make sure your kids do it right ? Teaching your kids to touch feet

Whats the best thing about being married to an Indian?

Well I started this question off in my group with a variety of answers.

to clarify the question it is about being married to an Indian.. Not just being married..

We all know the up's and down of marriage but "what is the best?" and hey lets go for "what is the worst" thing about being married to an Indian??


Best thing would be..... I am not sure I can actually pic out anything that I could say is an "Indian" thing. But as I asked the question I should also answer it.

So I am going to go for.. Learning a new culture.

but I am also going to add that for the worst thing about being married to an Indian..is the cultural conflicts... especially when it comes to family politics...

There is a highracey I not only dont fully understand but I dont agree with.. everyone is equal in my eye, no matter if they married the girl..or did something or whatever... and in my eyes.. you Earn respect your not automatically granted it.

Monday, November 28, 2005

Baked Beans

Just to go with my Bland food thing..

Last night I had baked beans for dinner..
I even had it cold and out of the can.

Oh the freedom !!!

Sunday, November 27, 2005

India Bashing

OK

So I am guilty of Indian Bashing.. But I find it funny but not in a Hahaha way when people India Bash to me... Do they not realise my husband is Indian?

the latest is the Call centre dramas with basically Indian call centre staff being hated here like the plague.. they have become the butt of soooo many jokes and current affair complaints.

But as these people go on and on about it to me personally making comments such as..

"I cant even understand the stupid Indian"
"Wobbling his head no doubt" (probally is actually lol)
"Dont these people have any respect for privacy"
"They are taking over the world" (often thought that actually)

but... I don't know I wouldn't tell fat jokes to someone whois mother was 500kgs...
sooo

Its not my fault my husband has defects..LOL

anyone else encountered this ??

Can Indians Fast?

Hubby is away for 2 weeks so I have been having boiled vegetables and other boring bland food (as my hubby refers to it)

and If I am not hungry well I dont have to bother making something to eat which is nice.. and I can even skip a meal if I want to.

Is it just my Indian husband or do all Indians lack the ability to skip a meal without feeling weak?? or Lathargic??

Why is this ?

Why is a sandwich NOT A Meal
and why isnt soup a Meal?
Why can we eat baked beans and egg for Dinner??
What is so wrong with plain TOast????

The questions go on and on......

Monday, November 21, 2005

Indian Shopping Malls

I have to comment on the Indian shopping Malls...

Since my last visit to india these have popped up all over delhi and numerous malls are in the process of being built..

So what are my thought on these mega shopping cities?? Well as for shopping is concerned I don't find them cheap, but I do find the "Easy"

Easy as in- Airconditioned (no one likes to sweat)
Easy as in- no touts (no one likes to be hassled so much your scared to look)
Easy as in- no Hassles (hey it says it all)
Easy as in- no crowds ( I am noise sensative and crowds..well.. Crowd me)
Easy as in -limited staring.... (staring is traumatic for me)
Easy as in- Clean Toilets..(I admit it..I do HAVE to go a lot)

So for super malls I give them a thumbs up, they are my little westernised sanctuary in a culture that I just don't blend into...

Battle Of The Sexes

I find myself arguing over that word R.E.S.P.E.C.T, but I am not breaking out in song........

I don't think this post is Indian man Versus Gori girl but I believe it is a male versus female thing.

Do all men think they know best? I honestly believe my husband hears BLAH BLAH BLAH when I speak.

I wonder wether my husband, Indian or maybe just male really thinks I know nothing ....or if he just treats me that way.....


note: this post was written after an argument so hostile comments may not being applicable by tomorrow morning... but then again they might.

Wednesday, November 16, 2005

Indian Beauty Parlors




This topic recently came up whilst chatting to a fellow Gori who is married to an Indian who went through the same thing as me.

My in laws sent me off to the beauty Parlor before our Indian Reception and I am sure they meant well and I am sure it was a tradition that had to be completed as hubby also went off to have stuff done...

The only difference was he came back looking the same and I came back looking quite different. Firstly the Lady had never applied makeup to a westerner so the coloring was wrong and the layer of gold dust didnt soften anything just exagerated my features which left me feeling rather "UNLIKE ME". And when your in an uncomfortable situation thats not the best thing to be feeling....

It was very very different though, my hair was to be curled but the power didnt go on to late and the curling iron wasnt hot and I can't recall exactly why but she was pulling it tightly through my hair and it was hurting like heck.. But Of course being the person that I am I didnt speak out..

I don't think I have ever had as much attention paid to me before or after that day. including the day of my own western wedding...

Mehndi




Mehndi- Is a henna paste that is applied to the hands during a wedding ceremony

I had both my hands and feet done.. it was quite a unreal experience really, to men in the market sat on little stools and applied the henna to me, while a relative sat near to keep me safe.. I had to sit still for over 30 mins while they applied it and then several hours whilst the henna dried.

I had to go home on the scooter with my husband ,with my hands and feet sticking out.
Keep in mind this was the first time I had been on a scooter and not being able to hold on was traumatic to say the least.

The henna was itchy and irritating but I was prompted to leave it on as long as possible to make it dark as possible.


here are some Mehndi Jeans that you can make...

Bleached Mehndi Jeans

Stage Fright

Gee Writing a Blog isnt easy afterall... I am already stumped on what to write about...

the fear of "Going Public" with my thoughts on India.. My Husband and everything else in between has just left me with stage fright !!!

I mean what if my inlaws read something they shouldn't... what if I say something I shouldn't.

Why am I so concerned ? not everything I have to say about India is nice.. Not everything I have to say about my husband is Nice... Iam not always nice..

Namastigi

This blog is a branch off from my Yahoo Goup InsideIndia which was set up several years ago after I met and fell in Love with an Indian Man.

The name Gori- Means - White Girl- hence the title for this blog. Every other name I wanted was taken so I am settling for Gori Girl... it is afterall what I am.

So welcome to my blog